This week I’m participating in Seth Godin’s #YourTurnChallenge. My goal is to blog everyday this week (Mon-Sun) here on my site as well as on the challenge’s official Tumblr blog. Here’s my Day 4 submission.
Today is my 39th birthday. One year away from 40.
I wrestle most days with feeling like a failure. The definition of success I learned growing up (marriage, family, steady job, plenty of money) hasn’t played out in my life. I’m almost 40 and still starting over in so many ways.
But then I stop and think:
- I am a husband to a wonderful wife, Rachel.
- I am daddy to two beautiful children, Ella and Jon, and a third, Ruthanne, who waits for me in heaven.
- We have a beautiful home.
- We have nice cars.
- I have a wide and wonderful assortment of friends.
- I rock Twitter.
- I get paid to do what I do best: communicate (both written and verbal).
- I’ve recorded and released an album with two of my closest friends.
- I’ve written over 365 radio programs that still air to this day on 1700 radio stations worldwide (not to mention podcast downloads).
- I’ve written and directed three short films, and won a Telly award for one of them.
- I’ve written and published 5 books.
- I’ve started three blogs, two websites, and one company.
- I’ve pastored a church that was dying, and helped it not only die with dignity but give over $300,000 away to deserving causes as a last act.
- I’ve performed over 30 marriages, many of those being the marriages of students who sat under my teaching and mentoring.
- I’ve been privileged to write for a Fortune 500 company, a multi-national leadership firm, one of the nation’s largest churches, one of my community’s finest charities, and countless other people whose vision deserved to be shared.
- I’ve interviewed entrepreneurs, civic leaders, spiritual leaders, and other interesting people and been privileged to share their stories with the public via magazine articles.
All of that by 39. Sure there are folks who’ve achieved more–but there are those who’ve achieved less. It’s not a competition anyway.
But more than all I’ve achieved, I’ve come to realize what I’m proudest of is that we–my wife, my kids and myself–keep looking for the next thing. The next step. The next challenge. We may fail, but as my wife is fond of saying, “We’re going to keep the train rolling.”
We don’t know what tomorrow holds, but we know this: if we win today, tomorrow will take care of itself.
It’s taken me 39 years to understand just what that means. Here’s to another 39 (and more) to keep living it the best I can.